Repressed Anger Is The Most Dangerous
If you are angry, why are you pretending? That’s right, many times you pretend you’re not angry and say it’s not true. Often many pretend not to feel anger to save appearances and this, in addition to hurting us, gives others clues on what to do to dominate and impose on us.
The real problem is that we don’t know how to channel anger and we prefer to keep it inside us. But sooner or later we will explode.
And if we don’t bother learning to control anger, it’s because it’s an emotion we don’t think about, we believe it’s not against us or that we can control it. But there is more, in fact we are taught that we must not show anger to avoid collateral damage.
It is true that this avoids toxic situations, but completely repressing anger can still have negative consequences. You need to understand when to avoid it and when it can be a problem. We invite you to read this article to understand when you shouldn’t suppress anger.
Repressed anger causes health problems
We tend to think of emotions as if they were not part of us, something abstract with respect to the body, as if the body were a vessel to contain them and a means to physically express them. This way of thinking implies that emotions manifest themselves physically, but also in our thoughts.
However, pent-up anger can cause serious health problems, even if there doesn’t seem to be a relationship between the two. Some of these problems are headaches, digestive disorders, insomnia, increased anxiety, depression, high blood pressure, skin problems or heart problems (heart attacks, tachycardia).
We need to find ways to release and express anger, otherwise it could have serious health consequences.
Anger that has not been managed correctly causes an alteration in behavior
It is possible that when we manage to control a fit of anger so as not to hurt or offend anyone, we feel good at first, but then we probably end up blaming other people, innocent or having nothing to do with it, in another way. because they represent a small threat. We don’t really intend to hurt them, but anger grows like a slow fire within us and this can evaporate our self-control.
Suppressed anger can also trigger anxiety disorders, irrational fear, and anger. The emotion has to come out somehow.
How and where to set limits
Becoming aware that anger is part of you is an important step, because, at that point, you will be able to set healthy limits. Are you angry about something others are doing? Or is the anger due to the fact that they remind you of a personal wound from your past ? Is it insecurity or is the other person really treating you badly?
The answers to these questions can only be discovered when you face your anger. They will allow you to make clear decisions about the relationships you have with other people. You may have to take a step back to realize that others are not as bad as you think.
Others need to know if they are hurting you
While people often act with the intent to hurt, the sure thing is that most of the time they don’t, there is no intention of unleashing anger. We all know. This is why we suppress anger. And if we feel guilty about our anger, we can internalize it and blame ourselves, without addressing the real problem.
If you give yourself the opportunity to get angry and analyze your anger, you can become more aware of the cause. Thus, you will be able to use the tools necessary to release anger without causing too much damage, by doing a healthy exercise of self-control.
Experiencing anger can be enjoyable
It can help you get to know yourself better and understand why certain things make you angry.
It’s not about living in a constant state of anger, it’s about not pretending it doesn’t exist. Anger is a natural human emotion and you must give yourself permission to experience it. Only in this way will you learn to manifest it in a healthy way and to avoid not only dominating you, but also from appearing.
