7 Habits That Make You Less Attractive

Some people adopt certain habits believing that they are more interesting, but in reality, these do nothing but make them less attractive.

The most curious thing is that many people want to look more attractive, but ignore some important issues, such as the fact that physical appearance tends to reflect who we are and what we feel inside. No matter what we want to look like, in the end it always comes out who we really are and if there is anything really unattractive, it is certainly a lack of authenticity.

On the other hand, when we think we are attractive, we are concerned with the physical aspect, with the appearance, as if this were to determine the ability to attract others. We ignore that our behavior has a great impact on the image we have of ourselves. Again, being authentic is much more interesting, because we show who we really are and don’t create false expectations.

It must also be taken into account that attraction is a manifestation of our personal energy and affects any type of human relationship. People are attracted to positive and optimistic individuals and turn away from negative and pessimistic ones. This aspect cannot be manipulated, because it immediately comes out.

Mistakes that affect attraction

There is no doubt that people are attracted to beauty and therefore we like the people around us to look good. For some, it is important to date people who are attractive or, at the very least, who care about their appearance. However, beauty is not just an aesthetic or physical matter.   

You can be the most attractive people and the ones who arouse least interest in others and sometimes be shunned. Beyond your physical appearance, acquiring some of the following habits could cause you to lose several points.  

• Making everything a competition.

  Competitiveness is adequate at certain times, but always comparing yourself to others, trying to be better than what you are, is not necessary. In fact, it ends up being annoying and arrogant. Nobody wants to spend their time with someone who is always trying to be recognized as better than others.

• Act arrogant

  .  It is obvious that nobody likes arrogant people. However, many think that this feature serves to stand out from others and do not see it as a problem. Nobody likes disrespectful people, who just try to make fun of others and despise them.

• Act with an air of superiority. 

  A person who looks down on others and acts with an air of superiority is not attractive at all. Nobody likes to be with people who try to stand out by belittling others and making them feel inferior.

• Complain constantly

  .  Many people think that by constantly complaining and arguing, they attract attention and have a chance to show off and be recognized. Quite the contrary. People run away from negative environments and complaints are a good ingredient for them to occur.

• Interrupting others.

   Interrupting others is a sign of disrespect. However, there are people who think that this attitude guarantees notoriety and the opportunity to demonstrate their presence, intelligence and their outstanding abilities. In reality, quite the opposite happens. Without education, one’s knowledge or opinions are of little use. In fact, interrupting to complete a sentence or express an opinion is very annoying.

• Don’t listen when others speak.

   Communication is one of the essential elements in any relationship. Not listening to others when they talk is a lack of respect, whether it is a group talk or a two-way interaction. Even worse than not listening is looking at something or someone while talking or not looking the speaker in the eye.

• Create a discussion without need or reason.

   Some people like to get attention by provoking arguments, based on misunderstandings, or by looking for reasons that don’t exist. In this way, they are thought to attract attention and have the opportunity to be attractive. However, such a person will likely only trigger feelings of contempt and, if someone gives her a rope, she will only give her the worst of herself. It’s all a matter of pride.

How to look more attractive

To leave these habits behind, it is important to invest in authenticity and avoid at all costs attitudes that fuel drama in any form. You don’t need to make yourself interesting or important based on negative attitudes – quite the opposite.  

The more you try to get noticed, the more you will appear and the less control you will have over the situation, even if it may seem the opposite. Talk less and listen more, care about people and be generous, showing empathy and compassion. In this way, you will prove to be much more interesting.