Those Times When Something Comes When You Stop Looking For It

Some people call them magical moments or turning points.  These are all those times when, suddenly, what we were dreaming of, looking for or hoping for happens suddenly, embracing us… Just when we stop looking, destiny offers us an unexpected gift.

In an unpredictable and often chaotic and complex world like a labyrinth with no way out, moments of turning point abound.  There are those who connect these facts to the much desired fortune, but in reality the real experts know that these unexpected events, which turn dreams into reality, hide something scientific and psychological.

To give an example, we cite a very interesting book: The  Medical Effect  by Frans Johansson explains to us that, sometimes, it is not enough to be an expert to be successful. Dedicating all our commitment, our time and our energy to a single goal does not guarantee us 100% achievement of the same. Sometimes you have to distance yourself, take on other perspectives and apply a less linear and more creative, relaxed, patient and original thinking  to reach a goal.

We cannot forget another important aspect either: sometimes the most unexpected actions are guided by our subconscious. When our mind is conscious, rigid, sometimes obsessive and always analytical, a certain distance is established, that sixth sense awakens which, believe it or not, is almost never wrong.

We propose that you reflect on this.

Even if we stop looking, the mind continues to be receptive

Andrea has a small business that is not doing well.  He knows that his bakery is not covering the expenses and that within a month it will have to close. For several weeks she has been thinking about what to do, but amid the pressures, anxiety and sadness of having to close the family business, she does nothing but cry. He feels desperate. However, this morning he woke up much more relaxed and calm, thinking “okay, whatever happens, I’ll face it”.

He took a shower to calm down and felt a wonderful peace of mind.  While taking a shower, he received a notification on the phone of one of his social networks. Picking up the phone, Andrea comes up with an idea: to make his business known online, advertise his shop on social networks and create sweets and desserts for parties and events.

This is a simple example of how our mind works when we stop pressing it,  and how its receptivity intensifies when we push away worries and fears. However, at this turning point, another equally interesting dimension intervenes:   intersectional thinking .

Intersectional thinking

People have a very common habit: that of trying to predict everything that can happen whether or not certain things are done.  This often forces us to create authentic Excel documents in our minds, in which we arrange columns, analyze data, relate variables and make comprehensive, but sometimes fatal, predictions.

Instead of making use of the left hemisphere which is so linear and analytical, it would be much more useful to apply intersectional thinking, characterized by the following skills:

• Being able to create connections between information and stimuli that have nothing to do with each other.
• The person skilled in intersectional thinking is able to find calm in chaos.
• In the midst of this mental palace of peace and balance, the person who makes use of this thinking approach is able to connect with everything that surrounds it because it keeps itself open, because it is receptive and curious, because it loves to “play” with all the information it receives, trying, destroying, inventing and transforming.

• Furthermore, this profile  is not obsessed with looking for a single solution, a single way out or answer to its problems. Most of the time he lets himself be carried away by what happens in his surroundings and accepts the unexpected, the fortuitous …

Luck is ultimately the ability to recognize opportunities

To have luck in life, sometimes the right circumstances must present themselves.  However, for such circumstances to materialize, it is our brain that must lead us to these points and must recognize opportunities where others often see a closed door.

Rather than obsessively concentrating on the search for a complete fact that we so desire, we must  learn to be more receptive, to sharpen our eyes and not to look at the world through a keyhole.